I am going to write a series of solo travel videos, advantages and disadvantages, experiences, tips and hacks,….
“Traveling alone takes courage. It is not stepping out of your comfort zone, it is jumping into the unknown. The adrenaline will take over your body, mind and emotions. Always remember “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore” -Andre Gide.
Most people have asked me through the years how I am not scared traveling alone as a female and if I get lonely meanwhile. The answers to these questions are simpler once you have traveled alone before.
Yes, it scares me. Let’s be honest, anybody is scared, even if it is a tiny bit. It isn’t a worrying terrifying feeling. But as I said, travelling is going straight into the unknown, the uncontrolled, the unexpected. I never know where I will end up, with whom, or what I will do. Planning too much a trip is a mistake not to make. Serendipity is what makes us addicted to travel. This is our passion at its purest. Not following a plan, a checklist and finding unexpected pleasures along the way. This is scaring, as human being we like to feel safe and stay inside our comfort zone. This happens even to the most adventurous traveler.
Secondly, being alone and feeling lonely are two different things. Of course you will feel lonely sometimes, even most travelers show you they are always happy it isn’t true, you are by yourself in an unknown location without friends or family, and most times you can barely talk to them. You wish you could share the adventures you .are living with them, and this thought will spring to your mind often. But at this point you only have two options.
- You either stay by yourself alone, feeling lonely, traveling and eating alone, like a high school nightmare 🙂
- Or you SOCIALIZE, this is in my opinion the biggest part of a solo traveler. There are plenty of solo travelers in the world. Much more than you expect. So just be open, ask them where are they from, what plans they have, how he got there, and suddenly you will start having the deepest conversations you haven’t even had with your closest friends. You can meet people are hostels, couchsurfing, touristic places, tours, even locals,.. Keep in mind that a big part of the vibe of your trip will be set by the people you are with. You will forget many things you saw, but you won’t forget how these people made you feel.
When traveling alone, you will have plenty of time for self-reflection, you will take stock of the good and the bad of yourself, your life and your goals. I remember I did a 27 hour bus ride to Brussels where I kept writing in a little notebook everything I saw, everything I thought, the people I met, the things I experienced. Once I got back, I had my life much more together than before, I avoided toxic people, and appreciated true friends.
You will experience freedom in its purest. Depending on anybody won’t be one of your problems. You can go whenever you want, wherever you want, however you want. The only thing that matters is your personal choice and preference.
Bringing you out of your comfort zone, you will discover how capable you are. How truly independent you can be. You are more likely to improve your problem solving skills, optimize resources, budgeting, make spontaneous decisions, and cook, clean,…
Furthermore, learning new things is a big part of a solo trip. Socializing is the main one. You would have never talked to strangers if you were traveling with your bestie. And you are more likely to go off the beaten path, forget a map, a list and experience serendipity if you are by yourself.
PROS OF SOLO TRAVEL
I will talk about CONS of Solo travel in my next post. Hope you enjoyed! Comment below what you thought about this post, your experiences,… I want to get to know you! Please subscribe, follow me and like this post if you liked it!
See you tomorrow, wanderers!